This Thursday is my mom’s birthday. She would be 62. I am feeling it very, very much today; just the everything of that loss (it’s been over five years, it never goes away… ugh…that realization). Anyway, shortly after her death I found some poems by Taije Silverman, who also lost her mom from cancer. They were great comfort - in both the words and the shared experience of losing a loved one from cancer, which can be so painfully isolating. So may horrible moments that are so hard to share with anyone. If you’ve experienced this, you know what I mean: the things no one talks about.
This one poem I still find particularly painful to read, but helpful too - because when I first read it it was so reassuring to really know others had been there and survived. Which you do.