Girls are trained to say, ‘I wrote this, but it’s probably really stupid.’ Well, no, you wouldn’t write a novel if you thought it was really stupid. Men are much more comfortable going, ‘I wrote this book because I have a unique perspective that the world needs to hear.’ Girls are taught from the age of seven that if you get a compliment, you don’t go, ‘Thank you’, you go, ‘No, you’re insane.’
I see a lot of people commenting about the James Franco story saying something along these lines: “Hey, it’s legal and they are two consenting adults! They’re equal! What’s the big deal!?”
Just because the law states that people above the age of 17 can bone whoever they want does not make this situation “equal.” Not only does James Franco’s age - 36 - put him in a position of power and higher status, but the fact that he is a movie star talking to a (YOUNG) fan immediately sets up a power structure that is completely uneven.
Here is a great blog post from author Barry Lyga on boundaries/relationships with young fans. It’s worth a read.